Cranial osteopathy

Please no.

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Stella has been getting more and more difficult around eating again and I am starting to freak out about it.

She is starting to refuse the bottle more and more. She doesn’t want to eat upon waking up after sleeping for 10 to 11 hours. We now wait an hour after she wakes up, and even then she only takes 100 mls. Prior to this rough patch, she was taking 150-190 from all bottles. Spoon feeding is really challenging–it’s not her lack of interest that bothers me, it’s that she gets so upset when you offer it to her. She will take some if she holds the spoon, however.

I am really concerned. To be honest, I am feeling like I physically can’t continue to worry about and deal with the trials of this feeding issue. We’ve been through so much already! I feel such a sense of dread. It’s just so frustrating and draining and worrisome. I was so sure that she was on solid ground. Now the earth is crumbling beneath us.

I thought we were past all this.

I really hope that this is a fluke. Or that a tooth is coming in. Or something innocuous explains this behavior. Perhaps reflux is flaring up and we need to up her dosage. Maybe we need more cranial osteopathy sessions. I can’t wait to get on the phone with Robin, her occupational therapist, and talk about it. This is tearing me apart. My mind races with worry. I feel a bit sick to my stomach again.

Wish us luck…. thank you.

Tube-free Stella: Day 3

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Stella is aptly named.

Today we received an effusive outpouring of support. From a stranger with whom we’d never spoken but who’d seen Stella with the tube and couldn’t stop gushing about how happy she was to see her without it. From two shop clerks whose eyes brightened at the sight of her tube-free face. And from our beloved Dr. Devorah, who helped Stella get to where she is and who today showered me with hugs and Stella with kisses. Robin Glass, Stella’s occupational therapist and an absolutely huge source of support and wisdom, emailed to check in, even though she doesn’t work on Thursdays. Joy is everywhere.

I know we’re not in the clear yet, but Stella is doing well.  She is happier than ever. We can’t help but feel celebratory. Already. There is still work to do, but it simply feels right. The worry and fear that held me in its grip is retreating, scurrying back to the dark quarters of the universe.

Tomorrow, we have an appointment with Stella’s pediatrician. When we last spoke over the phone, on the day Stella took out her tube, he said two or three tube-free weeks would be fine, and we’ll only be on day four when we see him. Still, I’m a little nervous and hope that his assessment of Stella is in line with ours.

That tube is not going back in. Not if I have anything to do with it!

The stubborn determination of hope

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Good news. Stella is back to taking in about half of her daily calories from the bottle, just as she did before the recent regression.

However.

My feeling is that the tube is preventing her from recovering completely. I believe that it exacerbates her reflux and makes swallowing more difficult. I found and paid for two medical research papers that support my beliefs. I hope that she proves me wrong, and soon, but I am unconvinced that our current mode of treatment will enable Stella to return to 100% normal bottle feeding. I am ready to take urgent action. I am questioning the medical establishment and ready to try something else.

I learned about and have been in touch with a renowned feeding clinic in Austria. Their cold-turkey approach to tube weaning is radically different that what is practiced here in the states. They believe that the baby or child must drive their own intake, rather than the tube. They share my belief that tubes, over time, worsen aversions and lead to tube dependency. They have studied the topic for over 15 years and have a success rate of 92-95%, depending on the age group. The doctor who runs the feeding clinic told me that Stella’s age is ideal for weaning and that we may be able to achieve it through email coaching, rather than having to go all the way to Austria–although I am eager and willing to go to Pluto if that’s what it takes.

The drawback to this method, what is called the “Graz” approach, is simple. The babies and children treated may not gain weight for a month or two. I believe that Stella would be on the shorter of those timeframes, since she already takes half of her formula orally and the clinic treats many children who are 100% tube fed. Stella will be hungry and not fed until she asks for food. This may seem harsh to some, but I believe it makes sense. I believe that Stella, if able to have more control over her eating and freed from the discomfort and difficulties of the tube, would respond very well. But she would need some time to pull through once the tube is removed. Most doctors here are not willing to let a baby have low or no weight gain for any period of time, so the tube stays in. They, of course, have the babies’ best interests in mind, but they seem beholden to the tube and unaware of, or too willing to overlook, its detrimental effects in the name of weight gain. I believe that any short term weight gain delay would be more than made up for with the restoration of a healthy relationship with food and the resulting appropriate, baby-driven weight gain that would follow.

Stella’s life was never in danger. The tube was placed for therapeutic purposes, not just to help her gain weight. The tube was helpful in allowing Stella to say “no” and be heard, instead of constantly being force-fed, which must’ve been very traumatic for her. The tube took the fight away from eating. The tube has enabled her to make progress. But I believe that we have reached a point at which the tube’s negatives outweigh the positives. And I am ready to take bold action in the face of a lot of opposition in order to do what I believe is best for her.

Cody and I are going to consult with her occupational therapist and pediatrician on this. We will continue to bring Stella to a cranial osteopath. We are going to do some research into the Graz method and the Austrian clinic. And then we are going to decide how to proceed. Of course, in the meantime, we would love to see Stella down bottles left and right, thereby eliminating the need for tough decisions or new approaches.

Even on gut-wrenching days when Stella resists the bottle like it’s full of toxic waste, there is an incredibly wishful part of me that looks to the next bottle as a possible turning point. There is a clump of raw hope that sits smoldering in my chest like an ember in the darkness. It’s always there. And it’s going to light the way to a tube-free Stella.

Lucky 14?

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Stella takes a step forward...

Stella takes a step forward...

It’s great that my appetite is back. Because I have some words to eat. In my last post, regarding Friday’s doctor appointment and weigh-in, I stated, “I’m certain that she won’t have gained the ounce per day that the doctor would prefer to see.” Over the two previous weeks, she’d gained ten ounces total, or five ounces a week. So I expected more of the same, since we’d only increased her intake by about 20 mls a day. It had been exactly one week since her last appointment, so a good gain would’ve been seven ounces. Well, Stella somehow managed to gain 11 ounces! She now weighs 14 pounds! We were amazed and encouraged.

Her doctor said that this type of weight gain suggests that there’s no obstruction or other structural problem. The food is passing through her system and being digested and utilized for growth. (Though, Stella will still have an abdominal ultrasound on Wednesday, just to be sure.) As her reflux and cow’s milk protein intolerance have been treated, the good doctor believes that this is now strictly a feeding issue that will resolve in time.

Friday’s second appointment, our foray into Cranial Osteopathy, was fascinating and uplifting. We are now seeing Dr. Devorah Steinecker, a holistic pediatrician–an M.D. with additional training in neurology, developmental pediatrics and pediatric osteopathy.  She was incredibly optimistic about Stella’s condition and totally confident in her ability to resolve Stella’s feeding issue.

I learned so much at this appointment, about an area of medicine I didn’t even know existed until a few days ago. My understanding is very limited, but in a nutshell, Dr. Steinecker believes that Stella’s issues were caused or exacerbated by compression to the skull that occurred during birth. An intense, 32-hour labor and the transverse (sideways)  positioning of Stella’s head put a ton of extra stress on her skull, focused mainly on the the occipital (rear) bone (which is composed of four parts in newborns), where the nerves controlling swallowing, appetite and digestion are located. The plates of the skull are designed to move and compress during birth, but Stella was subjected to an extreme amount of pressure, resulting in more compression of the bones and nerves in that area. Through gentle, hands-on manipulation, Dr. Steinecker can make tiny adjustments to the bones’ positioning, restoring balance, relieving tension, and freeing those nerves to function properly. That’s just my basic, quasi-ignorant understanding. If you have a question, please leave it in a comment and I’ll do my best!

We went back to Dr. Steinecker for a second appointment the next day, on Saturday evening, to speed things along. I’m almost afraid to say this, but we may already be seeing improvement. On the way home from yesterday’s appointment, Stella seemed hungry so I offered her the bottle. She took 50 mls while in her carseat, as we were driving. She didn’t fight the bottle, and gulped it down quickly and comfortably. This is pretty much unheard of. To feed Stella, I have to hold her in my right arm while standing and performing deep squats to provide her with a calming, steady bouncing motion while facing Christmas lights or another mesmerizing visual distraction. Later that evening, she took 100 mls, easily. As you may recall, her first bottle of the day is “always the worst” (more words to eat?). But this morning, she took an entire 115-milliliter bottle in five minutes. At her second bottle, she took 85. Holy crap.

Of course, other efforts may help explain this apparent upswing in bottle feeding. The new ratio of formula to thickener (one packet of Simply Thick to eight ounces of formula) along use of a number three Dr. Brown’s brand nipple (instead of a number two) seems to be a great combination for Stella. We don’t want to get ahead of ourselves, and we anticipate more ups and downs, but we are seeing progress!

Last night, it snowed in Seattle. The first flakes fell as we left her appointment with Dr. Steinecker. Snow always sparks excitement in me, probably due to giddy memories of sledding and snow days, crucial parts of any east coast upbringing. At the same time, snow makes the world seem more peaceful. At that moment, as we walked outside and admired the flurry illuminated in the street light, all seemed right in the world. Tube and all. There was, and is, a sense that the tube will be gone soon. When Stella is ready.