reflux

Stella steps it up. Again.

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I’m thrilled to report that Stella finished TWO BOTTLES today. And her others were solid performances as well. She had a fantastic day all around. There is still much progress to be made, of course. But Stella seems to be getting her groove back. Day by day. Bottle by bottle. Milliliter by milliliter.

It’s tough to do, but Cody and I try not to focus too much on volume. Just as important, if not more so, is her comfort level and receptiveness to the bottle. If she befriends the bottle, volume will surely follow.

Today, for the most part, she did not fight the bottle. There is still a bit of turmoil within her, however. At the start of most of her feedings, she’d take to the bottle quickly when I offered it. Then, a second or two later, she’d pull away and fuss a bit. But there was something different about the fussiness. I realized that in some cases she was telling me that  she wanted the bottle back! Yes, she was a bit conflicted, but I could see that she wanted to eat. So I’d offer it to her again, and off she went. (Or I’d offer it to her again, she’d pull away again, want it back, and THEN she’d be on her way.) As I’ve stated before, there will be more ups and downs, but I think Stella is coming around.

Not loving the camera. Or the outfit.

Not loving the camera. Or the outfit.

I had a more than my share of belly laughs this afternoon, during Stella’s photo shoot for our holiday card. Her range of expressions is so broad! And if she doesn’t like something, she will let you know in no uncertain terms! As a proud new mom, I bought her a fancy, adorable Christmas outfit: a black and white dress, with matching embroidered sweater, black tights and mary janes. To top it off, I bought a red hat, for a splash of festive color. Well, I had her decked out in this “aw”-inducing get-up for all of five minutes before Stella threw a fashion fit! Even after I removed the sweater, which was probably a bit itchy, she was clearly uncomfortable, writhing around and crying like her tights were in fire. So, I gave up on the chic factor and took it all off except for the hat. Somehow, the pictures wound up being perfect. The simplicity really worked, and she was so much happier, which made it a lot easier to get card-worthy shots. Another valuable parenting lesson, perhaps? I learned to roll with the situation, even if it didn’t fit my idealized vision. The funny thing is that the photos, card, and experience turned out better as a result.

That's better! (An outtake from the holiday card photo shoot.)

That's better! (An outtake from the holiday card photo shoot.)

The hat also served to cover up her patchy ‘do. Stella and I are both losing our hair. The dark locks she was born with are quickly giving way to blond peach fuzz, while my postpartum shedding only serves to clog the shower drain. Our paths continue their parallel trajectory. Before long, we’ll both have huge appetites and bald heads.

Tomorrow, we have two appointments at Children’s–an abdominal ultrasound and occupational therapy. Not looking forward to the disruption to our schedule, as it throws off Stella’s napping and eating rhythm. But the appointments’ longer-term contributions to Stella’s overall progress are worth any short-term inconveniences or minor setbacks. Besides, she’s shown that she can bounce back! Amen to that.

Simply thick. But thankful.

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Stella is currently enjoying a concert by Daddy as I assess the day’s progress. Today’s bottle feeding went pretty well. Not on the same level as yesterday, but there was a major bright spot: she polished off an entire bottle at her last feeding!

A probable explanation for today’s dip in overall intake, besides the fact that we tried to feed her during an appointment (she usually seems too distracted to eat when we are in an unfamiliar place), is that we used our last packet of Simply Thick last night, having failed to order more in time. This lapse on our part was simply, well, thick. At first we were unconvinced of the effectiveness of thickening. But this weekend, we finally found a thickener-to-formula ratio and nipple combination that seemed to be working, then promptly ran out of thickener. This morning’s feedings were left “thin, “so not surprisingly, she didn’t take as much from those bottles. However, this afternoon our wonderful occupational therapist, Robin Glass, hooked us up with a couple packets to tide us over until our delivery arrives (which should be tomorrow). With the proper balance restored, Stella proceeded to down a full feeding of 115 mls in no time flat. 

The thickener doesn’t just make the formula easier to swallow. It also helps with Stella’s reflux as it’s heavier and doesn’t come back up as easily. Stella usually sounds pretty phlegmy due to her reflux–there’s a rattling in her throat. In the short time since we’ve thickened her feedings, Stella’s breathing sounds more clear, perhaps an indication that her reflux is being kept at bay.

I’m so used to having to set up a pump or gravity feed when she’s had enough of the bottle, I almost don’t know what to do with myself when she finishes one. But inevitably, I wind up dancing around the house with Stella in my arms. (I almost always put on Christmas music when I feed Stella these days, to keep the mood cheerful and mellow.)

Robin Glass isn’t the only person to whom we owe thanks. A few days ago, we found out that Stella’s formula costs $43 per 14-ounce can. In four weeks, we’d rung up a formula bill of close to $1,000! On top of that, insurance was refusing to cover the formula, pump, and various other feeding supplies that Stella currently requires. After Cody spoke with the insurance company, we’d pretty much given up and were about to apply (probably in vain) for financial aid from Seattle Children’s Home Care, from which we order Stella’s supplies every other week or so. At the same time, as back-up, we did some quick online research and discovered that Elecare is offered online by the manufacturer at a slightly better price.  However, to our amazement, a representative of Home Care named Skylar somehow convinced the insurance company to cover everything! We are so grateful and plan to send a little holiday gift Skylar’s way.

With no appointments tomorrow, Stella and I can take it easy and simply enjoy the day together. We’ll go for our walk, take care of some household chores (with Stella in her beloved Baby Bjorn), and hopefully do some dancing as well.

Lucky 14?

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Stella takes a step forward...

Stella takes a step forward...

It’s great that my appetite is back. Because I have some words to eat. In my last post, regarding Friday’s doctor appointment and weigh-in, I stated, “I’m certain that she won’t have gained the ounce per day that the doctor would prefer to see.” Over the two previous weeks, she’d gained ten ounces total, or five ounces a week. So I expected more of the same, since we’d only increased her intake by about 20 mls a day. It had been exactly one week since her last appointment, so a good gain would’ve been seven ounces. Well, Stella somehow managed to gain 11 ounces! She now weighs 14 pounds! We were amazed and encouraged.

Her doctor said that this type of weight gain suggests that there’s no obstruction or other structural problem. The food is passing through her system and being digested and utilized for growth. (Though, Stella will still have an abdominal ultrasound on Wednesday, just to be sure.) As her reflux and cow’s milk protein intolerance have been treated, the good doctor believes that this is now strictly a feeding issue that will resolve in time.

Friday’s second appointment, our foray into Cranial Osteopathy, was fascinating and uplifting. We are now seeing Dr. Devorah Steinecker, a holistic pediatrician–an M.D. with additional training in neurology, developmental pediatrics and pediatric osteopathy.  She was incredibly optimistic about Stella’s condition and totally confident in her ability to resolve Stella’s feeding issue.

I learned so much at this appointment, about an area of medicine I didn’t even know existed until a few days ago. My understanding is very limited, but in a nutshell, Dr. Steinecker believes that Stella’s issues were caused or exacerbated by compression to the skull that occurred during birth. An intense, 32-hour labor and the transverse (sideways)  positioning of Stella’s head put a ton of extra stress on her skull, focused mainly on the the occipital (rear) bone (which is composed of four parts in newborns), where the nerves controlling swallowing, appetite and digestion are located. The plates of the skull are designed to move and compress during birth, but Stella was subjected to an extreme amount of pressure, resulting in more compression of the bones and nerves in that area. Through gentle, hands-on manipulation, Dr. Steinecker can make tiny adjustments to the bones’ positioning, restoring balance, relieving tension, and freeing those nerves to function properly. That’s just my basic, quasi-ignorant understanding. If you have a question, please leave it in a comment and I’ll do my best!

We went back to Dr. Steinecker for a second appointment the next day, on Saturday evening, to speed things along. I’m almost afraid to say this, but we may already be seeing improvement. On the way home from yesterday’s appointment, Stella seemed hungry so I offered her the bottle. She took 50 mls while in her carseat, as we were driving. She didn’t fight the bottle, and gulped it down quickly and comfortably. This is pretty much unheard of. To feed Stella, I have to hold her in my right arm while standing and performing deep squats to provide her with a calming, steady bouncing motion while facing Christmas lights or another mesmerizing visual distraction. Later that evening, she took 100 mls, easily. As you may recall, her first bottle of the day is “always the worst” (more words to eat?). But this morning, she took an entire 115-milliliter bottle in five minutes. At her second bottle, she took 85. Holy crap.

Of course, other efforts may help explain this apparent upswing in bottle feeding. The new ratio of formula to thickener (one packet of Simply Thick to eight ounces of formula) along use of a number three Dr. Brown’s brand nipple (instead of a number two) seems to be a great combination for Stella. We don’t want to get ahead of ourselves, and we anticipate more ups and downs, but we are seeing progress!

Last night, it snowed in Seattle. The first flakes fell as we left her appointment with Dr. Steinecker. Snow always sparks excitement in me, probably due to giddy memories of sledding and snow days, crucial parts of any east coast upbringing. At the same time, snow makes the world seem more peaceful. At that moment, as we walked outside and admired the flurry illuminated in the street light, all seemed right in the world. Tube and all. There was, and is, a sense that the tube will be gone soon. When Stella is ready.

Fuel

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Tough day.

The tube came out AGAIN. While replacing the initial, temporary tape job, the tube was jostled quite a bit and Stella had the worst screaming fit ever. It was heartbreaking. I have to dig deep to unearth any positives at the moment. But they are there. Here goes…

I’m thankful that Stella and I were able to fit in our daily walk to Fuel Coffee. As usual, Stella watched intently as Noah made my tall hazelnut latte. I got my glazed Mighty O donut to go with it. We were able to enjoy some fresh air and even, believe it or not, a bit of sunshine. 

Stella took almost twice as much from the bottle today as she did yesterday. Granted, yesterday saw a very low total, but we can be glad that she rebounded. Hopefully, her intake will continue climbing.

While Stella did complain quite a bit at the beginning of her bottle feedings, she did get through it, relax and accept the bottle. I put thickened formula in all but one of her bottles. We’re going to give it at least one more day to see how it goes before we judge whether thickening is the way to go.

As usual, Stella was a very happy girl for the vast majority of the day. A total delight. She really only got cranky or upset today for obvious reasons: tiredness, hunger, and the disaster with the tape job on the tube during which we ALL lost our cool.

And the bottom line, when I’m really desperate to find some glimmer of hope? She is still eating from the bottle. It may not be as much as we would like, but she IS eating. And we can build on that.

I’ll try to make a habit of taking inventory of any and all positives. It’s the fuel that keeps us going on days like today. (Note the attempt to tie in “fuel” again as the theme of the post. I’m trying, people.)

Tomorrow, we have her weekly doctor’s appointment. Mainly, it’s a weigh-in. I’m certain that she won’t have gained the ounce per day that the doctor would prefer to see. We’re finding it so hard to fit in eight feedings. We like to give her a chance to be hungry instead of solely using the clock as our guide and feeding her every three hours. And because we’re so exhausted at night, sometimes we wake up late for a feeding and that puts us behind before the day even starts. We may add a third nighttime pump feeding to get her more calories. We’ll see what the doctor says about her weight.

That’s not her only appointment for tomorrow. I’m excited to report that we will also see a doctor specializing in Cranial Osteopathy. Apparently, this doctor has successfully treated many babies for feeding issues. I’m eager to see what she can do for Stella!

Tomorrow is a new day. Here’s to all the positives and progress to come!

A memory from our hospital stay

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During our stay at Children’s, blood, stool and urine samples were taken and tested for literally dozens and dozens of things. Dr. Lindsay Fox was kind enough to review the findings with us, and she couldn’t help but wonder aloud about one of the results.

With a gentle but quizzical look on her face, Dr. Fox said, “I’m not sure why, and it’s really nothing to worry about at this point, but Stella’s triglycerides are pretty high.”

I was quite surprised and said something like, “Wow, that’s so strange! Why on earth would that be?”

Cody raised his eyebrows at me and asked, “Really? You don’t know why?”

I just stared at him with a perplexed and expectant expression, as he’d obviously figured it out and couldn’t wait to tell me why her triglycerides were high.

“It’s all the bacon you’ve been eating!”

Dr. Fox gave me a sympathetic look. “Well she has to be able to eat something!”

Cody was right. Because I’d been off dairy, I’d turned to bacon for solace. Cody had been frying it up for me in a desperate attempt to get me to eat. (He’d also fry eggs in the bacon fat and try to get me to eat those too.) As I explained previously, anxiety took my appetite away almost completely. Bacon and Kettle Chips were the only foods I could swallow without gagging.

Of course, Stella is now on formula and not breastmilk. I’m guessing her arteries are quite relieved.

The plot thickens

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Today, we went to Children’s for Stella’s weekly occupational therapy (OT) appointment. We are lucky to work with one of the best therapists in the country when it comes to infant feeding issues. At her suggestion, we are trying out thickened feedings in the hopes of making swallowing easier for Stella.

The therapist explained that a lot of babies with reflux have difficulty with swallowing. No one is really sure why, but the experts are beginning to understand it a bit better. Our therapist’s theory is that reflux, or more accurately GERD (Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease), causes inflammation which interferes with the sensitive receptors in the throat that trigger and guide swallowing. By thickening Stella’s formula, we may be able to slow the flow down so that swallowing is easier for her. Last week, we tried thickening for the first time, with little success. The mix was just too thick, and Stella was having to work too hard to get too little. So this week, we came up with a new ratio of formula to thickener that should work better. I tried it out at her last feeding and it went pretty well–not great, but okay. We’ll try it a couple more times before we judge it.

The therapist told me that I could assess how well a feeding is going, and if a feeding strategy is working, by listening to Stella’s breathing–it should sound comfortable and smooth but steady. There should be two or three sucks before each swallow. Too fast and frantic, say, one suck per swallow, and she winds up gulping, getting upset and pulling away from the bottle. Sometimes, she accepts the bottle in her mouth and doesn’t suck at all, or sucks very little (with four or more sucks per swallow), which means the formula is too thick and slow or that she simply doesn’t want to eat. Which brings me to a key point. Stella is in control at all times. However thick or thin the formula, however big or small the opening of the nipple (we’ve tried three different types of nipples so far), she can choose how hard to suck. She controls the flow. So really, all we can do is try to gauge what makes her most comfortable, and let her take it from there.

This hasn’t been an easy fact to accept. (Or should I say “tough to swallow?” Ahem. Sorry.) My family has a very American attitude when it comes to the power of hard work and determination. As cheesy as it may sound and as a big a cliche as it is, I have always believed that if you try hard enough, you can achieve anything. This belief propelled me to some small but personally gratifying successes in academics, athletics and my career. But this situation with Stella isn’t so simple. Ultimately, after all our best efforts, it’s up to Stella to turn this around. Cody and I fully believe that she can do it. But we can’t force it. And therein lies a fitting lesson for us as new parents. Now and in the years ahead, Cody and I must do our best to support Stella. To love and encourage her. To provide her with the environment and tools she needs to reach her potential. To never give up on her. But then, as hard as it may be at times, we have to let her find her own way.

I’m not proud of this, but after one particularly disappointing feeding last week, I actually threw a bottle across the room. Not good. Not good at all. Rest assured, I was immediately ashamed, and I won’t do it again. Thankfully, since then, Cody and I have come to accept the situation a bit more, instead of fighting it so much. Our anger and fear have subsided a bit. We more purposefully focus on the positives, however small. If she only takes a little from the bottle, but seems relaxed, we celebrate the ease with which she ate and compare it to the screaming and arching she used to do upon being tipped into the feeding position–before the bottle was anywhere near her mouth! Today, she drank some from the bottle, took a break and went back on the bottle not once but twice! A few weeks ago, that was an impossibility. She’d give it one go, if you were lucky, and soon after she’d pull off and it was over. No amount of cajoling should convince her to continue. So, she is making progress, and to keep us focused on that, I’ve begun to note all the positive signs in our feeding log.

When the tube comes out (oh, what a glorious day that will be!), we’ll look back at all of this and marvel at how far we came. Cody and I will dance for joy and pat ourselves on the back. But, really, it will be Stella who deserves the credit. I can’t wait to give her a congraluatory kiss. Until then, we’ll celebrate every little success along the way. Hope you’ll join us.

Baby steps

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The first bottle feeding of the day is always the worst. We’ve learned to lower our expectations for that one. Yesterday, she completely refused. Didn’t take a drop. In the days preceding, she took around 20 mls (out of 115).

Well… today, she took 100 mls from her first bottle! Then, as I held her up in a celebratory moment, a bunch of the 100 mls cascaded back out onto my Natick (hometown) sweatshirt. Such are the ups and downs of this journey. They come in such quick succession. It’s nauseating!

Regardless of the upchuck, I see it as a good sign. I don’t think that the regurgitation caused her much pain, though she did furrow her brow afterward, as if concerned or confused. So I’m hoping that, overall, it was a positive eating experience and a baby step in the right direction.

Today, Stella’s doctor recommended that we take her to Children’s for an ultrasound, to help rule out an obstruction in her GI tract, which could be impacting her reflux. Any type of non-invasive investigation into what could be affecting Stella is a great idea! He’s sending the referral today, and I am to call Children’s tomorrow to schedule the ultrasound.