Three is a magic number

Three years ago today, Cody was very, very brave.

Three years ago today, Cody did something that was very, very brave.

Today is our 3rd anniversary. Cody and I have been married for three years, but together for seven and a half. Though, the last year alone feels more like a decade in some ways. Cody gave me the most thoughtful card with several sentences written inside that made my eyes well up (!), and, from Nordstrom, a pretty necklace with black crystal beads. He thought about getting the clear crystal version, but figured black would be better for the fall and winter. He is right. I’m impressed.

We three celebrated three years tonight at a low-end but decent pizza joint. That may not seem very romantic. But in a way, it was.  We were happy and content, just being together. Until Cody derailed my plan to get ice cream at Molly Moon’s afterward! Big mistake, Cody. Huge. But we recovered quickly.

At dinner, Stella ate more food in one sitting than we’ve ever seen: beans, pasta, cottage cheese, olives, shredded mozzarella, grapes, three giant wedges of watermelon, bread. Oh. My. God. It was AWESOME. What a fabulous anniversary gift. I think we both got a little teary eyed. We were in awe, reminded of how lucky we are to have the tube so very far behind us. Our union has created this beautiful, vibrant girl who is thriving. It’s beyond words, really.

This weekend, Cody and I will venture out together for a fancy-ish meal and hopefully a movie. And ice cream will be eaten. And old memories will be rehashed. And I’ll wear my new necklace. And we’ll get to be Amber and Cody for a while, not Mama and Dada.

Cody, I feel so fortunate to have found you. Whenever I miss my family and start cursing about being here in Seattle, so far away, I have to catch myself. Seattle is a magical place! I came here ten years ago basically on my own, with all my possessions packed into my 1990 Jetta, and stepped into the unknown. I was adrift. Throughout my life but especially after moving here, I experienced terrible loneliness and I wasn’t sure why I’d come here or what I was doing or if I’d ever find “my place.” It’s all clear now. I was growing and learning on my own, yes, but more than that–the move to Seattle, all my mistakes and fears and, heh, therapy–it all led me to you, a Minnesota boy sweet and strong enough to put up with me. Truly. (I mean, you just came in here as I was writing this and I snapped at you because I was annoyed and wanted to finish this post and didn’t want you to see it yet.)

You are as smart as they come, but humble, yet, I love that when you don’t know something, well, you’ll somehow form a super-authoritative, convincing and detailed opinion on the spot based on what little information is available. You don’t have a greedy or selfish bone in your body. You are one hell of a point guard (really amazing actually), and a self-made player like me (you may be the only person who knows what I mean when I say that), and this is huge, not only because we got to know each other on the court but because I just couldn’t be with someone who sucks at basketball. You’re incredibly cute, though I’m still trying to convince you of that. Oh boy are you an amazing dad–you nurture Stella and shower her with love and pay very, very close attention to her and appreciate all the little big things she does. Every girl on this planet should be so lucky. What I know for sure is that this world be an above-and-beyond better place if all fathers were like you. I’m lucky to have you as my best friend, and my husband. Honestly, without you, I’d still be lost. I love you very much.


  1. Kiersten Szatkiewicz · September 10, 2009

    What a great post! It struck a chord with me… our first anniversary is this Sunday. Congratulations to the two of you!

    • amberhj · September 17, 2009

      Kiersten, happy anniversary! I hope you did something fun! I can’t believe it’s already been a year. Amazing. I just read your blog and saw your comments about the “alleged” greenness of Austin and I got a kick out of it. Cody once lived in Austin and worked for the Texas Natural Resource Conservation Commission (which has since been renamed). Let’s just say he didn’t actually do much while there. 😉 I suppose it may be greener than the rest of Texas, though! I’ll be sure to check in on your blog to see how you are doing–sure hope you are enjoying Austin! (We may have to get together next time we are there visiting family!)

  2. Amy Allen · September 14, 2009

    Happy Anniversary!!!!!

  3. Jessica · September 17, 2009

    that is so sweet my teeth hurt – in a good way!

    • amberhj · September 17, 2009

      Aw, thanks very much Jessica! Hope I didn’t give you a cavity! See you soon!

  4. Dawn · September 17, 2009

    Amber, that was very very sweet. You are as great of a writer as you are a basketball player (lol). Seriously, that was so nice to read. Me and Tom have our 4th anniversary coming up on the 23rd and it will be the first with our little guy as well. Reading that made me smile. Thanks!

    • amberhj · September 17, 2009

      Wonderful to hear from you Dawn and thanks for stopping by. Congrats again on the beautiful baby boy and on your four years of marriage! It’s great to see you doing so well!

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